Asperger's Syndrome

Asperger syndrome (AS), also known as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger disorder (AD) or simply Asperger's, is an autism spectrum disorder (ASD) that is characterized by significant difficulties in social interaction and nonverbal communication, alongside restricted and repetitive patterns of behavior and interests. It differs from other autism spectrum disorders by its relative preservation of linguistic and cognitive development. Although not required for diagnosis, physical clumsiness and atypical (peculiar or odd) use of language are frequently reported.

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When I first found out Alfie, my 4 year old son has AS earlier this year I was numb. I could not feel anything. I couldn't describe the feeling I had at that moment. All I knew is that how in the world did he got this AS from? I didn't know what AS is all about. I've heard of Autism before but not Asperger. 

I didn't expect that Alfie has AS. I thought all this while is just a phase where every toddler go through. I always have conversations with a friend of mine, a psychologist officer about his behavior. Sometimes I get worried that Alfie is misbehaving and I will eventually give up. She consoled me and told me everything will be okay. Until I came across an article on ASD and I braved myself to Google about Aspergers and Autism. 

I begin to read more about Asperger's Syndrome. The characteristics, symptoms, treatments. I realize Alfie have similar symptoms of AS. I panicked. I immediately contact my friend and she was relieved that I came to realization. She was waiting for me to point out there is something off about Alfie's behavior instead of telling it to my face. I set up an appointment with a pediatrician who practice child psychology in SJMC for a diagnosis checkup. 

I always get it right (most of the time) whenever I follow my instinct. But this time I was hoping for it to be wrong. Turns out, Alfie has a very mild Asperger's Disorder. The doctor advised me to enroll him for occupational therapy once a week, and get more information on AS so I could assist him at home. At that point, I was lost. I didn't cry but I was really numb. 

Today, Alfie had gone through 9 weeks of occupational therapy. Alhamdulillah, by the fourth week he can write better now, his social skills improved and I slowly notice his interests in things. But I'm struggling with his behavior though. He has been giving me the worst tantrums ever. Partially is because of the bond he has with his grandparents. He gets away with everything whenever they are around. So, I'm trying my best to discipline him now.

Other than that, having a child with AS is also a test for me. Sometimes I get frustrated. But I always boost myself by reading articles on AS, watching inspirational videos because at the end of the day, I want what's best for my son. To accomplish that, it has to start from me, the parent. So guide your child with patience and passion. God's will, everything will sail smoothly with the help from Allah S.W.T.